Sean Creighton
by Sean Creighton
Wed Feb 3rd 2010 at 12:01pm UTC

Cupid On Campus

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Seems appropriate with Valentine’s Day around the corner to ask: How many of you personally have or know people who have met their spouse, partner, wife, husband, significant other in college? This is certainly one way Mighty EDU transforms lives.

According to the National Marriage Survey, college is still the place where 25 percent of men and 15 percent of women meet their first spouse, a steep decline from 50 years ago but still impressive. And, these stats omit second marriages, faculty hook-ups, admin nuptials, and, not to forget, the occasional faculty and student knot-tying. When I look at my own closest friends, roughly 42 percent of them were connected via a primary (e.g. same college) or secondary (e.g. study abroad program) college experience.

Hmm, maybe it is time for single folk to forgo Match.com and enroll in a class to learn and be struck by Cupid’s arrow as they stroll across campus this lovely spring.

2 Responses to “Cupid On Campus”

  1. Daniel Carins Says:

    Isn’t that simply because we choose our mates based primarily on similar class backgrounds, and university is a major barrier to certain classes?

    In other words, knowing that someone is an undergraduate does a lot of the “filtering” work for us about someone’s attitudes, ambitions and tastes… it’s a sign that social groups is becoming increasingly homogenous and less tolerant of difference.

    There have been reports in the UK about the risk of creating social apartheid between married couples and non-married couples, because middle class couples tend to wed, and working class couples tend not to. There are significant benefits from marriage – life expectancy, health, happiness, pension and job security as well as fiscal benefits which compound class differences.

    That’s not to say I’m promoting marriage – I think that those benefits are due to the attitudes of people who tend to marry rather than marriage itself suddenly makes you healthier or happier!

    So, no, it’s not time for single “folk” to forgo Match.com at all but rather to ditch their preconceptions about people who don’t go to university, to be less snobby about people less well-off than themselves, and to be more compassionate to different lifestyles rather than the high priority we currently give to ambition and wealth, and hostility to attitides remotely different to our own.

  2. Wil Says:

    I don’t know about university filtering anyone for compatibility, the notion seems extremely elitist to me…. In Canada, few young people go to university, most take classes to get some type of certificate, so in Canada this opportunity for social screening is substantially reduced. If a person gets out in the world, travels a bit, and has an open mind about people, there wil be no problem meeting and marrying the right person.