Archive for May, 2008
I am a single white 35 year old woman with a great career that pays me enough to live in a nice neighborhood in most cities (including New York City, where I live now). Also, my field (engineering) is in high demand so I could work in any city in the US for the most part.
My decision on where to live is governed primarily on where I have the best chance of meeting my future husband. I didn’t see any category in the book that includes “best city for single 30 someth ings”. This is a bit frustrating, as the best singles cities seems to only cover up to age 29.
Anyway, I have been single for almost a year and a half and currently have no prospects, although I have worked hard to date and meet people. Let me add that I am attractive and personable, have tons of friends, and love going out and cultural events. I just think that it is very hard for mid-30 women in NYC to meet men that want a relationship. Good thing I just got a new job in Washington DC!! Does anyone have advice on this topic?
Sent by Anna from New York
I was born in Munich…went to an international grade school in Tokyo…finished at an American High School in Seoul…and have lived in Washington, DC for these last several years.
Now it’s on to another part of the world? But where? I’ve recently toured SE Asia (Thailand, Laos & Cambodia), but fear the hot humid weather, as well as Central Europe; the latter interesting but not all that different from my culture (though Croatia was great!)
What places have YOU lived and where would you recommend to this former Army brat looking for another “foreign” place to reside for 3-to-5 years or longer? I can teach English, am a photojournalist, and also have sales ability. I’ve done volunteer social work but am up to ANYthing!
Sent by Howard Hodges from Washington, DC metro
Don’t get me wrong, I love Melbourne. I love its little alleyways with the surprise of gorgeous busy cafes. I love the public transportation (most of the time). I love how the parks and natural. I love its quirks.
But something just doesn’t fit me and never has. Almost as if I’ve married the wrong woman. I love big cities and Melbourne is big enough but feels like it’s on the fringes of the world. It’s also too flat(!) and the natural vegetation aro und here tends towards the dry and dusty the further out you get. I’m more of a hills, forests, ocean kind of girl, really!
Not just that but I feel a little as though once you get out of the city centre, just like anywhere in Australia, there’s a problem of ghettoisation. Ethnic clumps (including WASP ones), areas where there’s only one kind of trendy arty person, rich areas, poor areas. It’s better than Sydney for example, but it gives me pause. I’m of Sri Lankan origin, bisexual, a doctor, I want to raise a family one day and have a house and garden, I want to live close to the city… not all of these things fit and if they do I feel like it is only because of my earning potential- in which case I end up with all the rich yuppies.
Not to mention the lack of support that the government has been known to give ethnic minorities, immigrants, refugees, gay people… the conservatism of the general population is at odds with my own core values.
I’m scared to move because I don’t k now that anywhere will be any different. Perhaps it will be xenophobic, difficult to make friends. Perhaps the social welfare system (something which I value highly) will not be good. Then of course the language barrier if I move out of the English-speaking world. Then there’s also the problem of my medical registration and its international applicability (even though I’m a local graduate of a major Australian university).
However, I’m more scared to stay here and never experience the world.
Where on earth should I go (literally)?
sent by Snipergirl from Melbourne, Australia
For the last two years, I’ve lived in the Pacific Northwest, and I just don’t click here. The area is beautiful and majestic and all, but I just don’t click with the people, somehow. They have this eerie, introverted quality that I don’t fit in with.
I’m originally from the southeast US, but there just wasn’t much happening there intellectually or creatively. I was bored.
I lived in Los Angeles for a few months, and that was actually pretty cool, but the people lacked a certain soulfulness and depth.
I’ve heard that Chicago might be a good fit for me. Also, I’ve heard that the maritimes of Canada or, even, my original ancestral region of northwestern Spain might work.
Does anybody have any thoughts on the subject? Non-rude ones, I mean.
Sent by David Jack